Q:My husband wants an open marriage and I am not sure if I am keen on the idea, I think it is a cop out and he wants to have affair and in my anger i want to sleep with another man to get back at him. what are your thoughts on this?

A: Ahhh, yes the ol open marriage.  I feel you on this one. In my opinion this is the way a man tries to have his cake and eat it to.  I think if he really wanted to leave you he would have left by now, but he is looking for a way to justify sleeping with someone else and keeping you around. I would also look at the possibility he has had an affair and is trying to cover it up.

As for you wanting to sleep with someone to get back at him, i understand that it is our human nature when we get mad to lash out and seek revenge on what or whoever, has in our mind, done us wrong. I would go sit down and talk to him and let him know that this is not what you want and you are not okay with it.  If he wants to have an open marriage then there will not be a marriage at all to be open with.  If you need a councilor to talk to, we here at spiritual friends can set you up with one.  If you would like to talk with me personally get ahold of the Rev. Lisa and i will see to it she gets you my e-mail address. 

Good Luck!
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