Q: Hello Bable, I am 19 and have been married for 2 years, My husband was over sea's in the army. He just came back a month ago and treats me with no respect. Telling me what to wear, he tells me when or if I can go out places with my female friends and what time I have to be home even if he isn't there him self. Just two days ago he told me as his wife it is my duty to making sure his uniforms are washed and ironed for him at all times. It is not like I am a housewife I am going to school to further my education. I have to take him dinner to his workplace and i am beginning to think its because he has became controlling of me. I don't know what to do or which way to turn, I do love him but I can't live this way anymore.

A: You need to sit down with him NOW and talk to him about how you feel.  Marriage is a mutual respect, just because you are a woman and does not mean you can be used as a doormat, or are expected to do everything he wants from you.  If he wanted this to be the way he wants it he should have said something in the beginning of the relationship. 

I would sit down with him tell you how you feel with how he is acting, i dont like to push divorce but i have seen many relationships like this, and i dont want you to fall into a statistic.  Sometimes we love someone but we are not good together as a unit.  Please keep us posted, and let us know if we can help you with anything.

Good Luck!
Bable